Should she end her relationship with some kaafir women or use the opportunity for dawah

 

Should she end her relationship with some kaafir women or use the opportunity for da’wah?

I am a woman who corresponds with some European and American women via the internet. We have been exchanging gifts and discussing sewing ideas for two years. I have tried to talk to them about Islam, but I stopped for fear that I do not know enough to call them to Islam and I might make some mistakes. What do you advise me to do – should I cut off my ties with them altogether or should I carry on with the aim of calling them to Islam despite the difficulties – and how should I begin? Is this relationship regarded as friendship, and what is the Islamic ruling on it?.

 

Praise be to Allaah.

Firstly: 

It is not permissible for a Muslim man or woman to take a
male or female friend who is not a Muslim, because Allaah has forbidden us
to love the kuffaar or take them as close friends and companions, as He says
(interpretation of the meaning): 

“You (O Muhammad) will
not find any people who believe in Allaah and the Last Day, making
friendship with those who oppose Allaah and His Messenger (Muhammad), even
though they were their fathers or their sons or their brothers or their
kindred (people). For such He has written Faith in their hearts, and
strengthened them with Rooh (proofs, light and true guidance) from Himself.
And He will admit them to Gardens (Paradise) under which rivers flow, to
dwell therein (forever). Allaah is pleased with them, and they with Him.
They are the party of Allaah. Verily, it is the party of Allaah that will be
the successful”

[al-Mujaadilah 58:22] 

“O you who believe! Take not the Jews and the Christians
as Awliyaa’ (friends, protectors, helpers), they are but Awliyaa’ of each
other. And if any amongst you takes them (as Awliyaa’), then surely, he is
one of them. Verily, Allaah guides not those people who are the Zaalimoon
(polytheists and wrongdoers and unjust)”

[al-Maa’idah 5:51] 

“O you who believe! Take not as (your) Bitaanah (advisors,
consultants, protectors, helpers, friends) those outside your religion
(pagans, Jews, Christians, and hypocrites) since they will not fail to do
their best to corrupt you. They desire to harm you severely. Hatred has
already appeared from their mouths, but what their breasts conceal is far
worse. Indeed We have made plain to you the Ayaat (proofs, evidences,
verses) if you understand”

[Aal ‘Imraan 3:118] 

Secondly: 

It is permissible for a Muslim to correspond with them and to
give them gifts, with the aim of calling them to Islam and showing them its
beauty, subject to the condition that he has sufficient knowledge and faith
which will enable him to call them and protect him against the specious
arguments and devious methods of the people. But the one who is not equipped
to do so should not involve himself in this field, because of the
temptations to which he may be exposed, or the doubts with which he may be
faced and be unable to refute, in which case it would lead to his going
astray and being doomed – Allaah forbid. 

Thirdly: 

If this correspondence is limited to the exchange of sewing
ideas and benefiting from them in this way, without it involving loving
them, regarding them as friends, congratulating them on their festivals etc,
then there is nothing wrong with it in sha Allaah. The Prophet (peace
and blessings of Allaah be upon him) used to interact with the Jews, buying
and selling. 

There is nothing wrong with giving gifts to them, subject to
the condition that they are not in a state of war against Islam and the
Muslims. Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning): 

“Allaah does not forbid
you to deal justly and kindly with those who fought not against you on
account of religion nor drove you out of your homes. Verily, Allaah loves
those who deal with equity”

[al-Mumtahanah 60:8] 

al-Sa’di (may Allaah have mercy on him) said (p. 1016): 

i.e., Allaah does not forbid kindness, upholding of ties and
good and fair treatment of mushrikeen among your relatives and others, so
long as they are not fighting against you on account of religion or driving
you out of your homes. There is no sin in upholding ties with them, because
there is nothing wrong with upholding ties with them in this case. End
quote. 

Fourthly: 

The means of calling people to Islam are many and various,
such as the following: 

1-    
Direct discussion, in which we
should focus on the merits of Islam, the truth of Tawheed, the importance of
faith, the truthfulness of the message of Muhammad (peace and blessings
of Allaah be upon him), and then explain the falseness of other religions
and the distortions and alterations that have befallen them.

2-    
Giving books and pamphlets
which speak of Islam and encourage people to enter into it.

3-    
Directing others to sites which
explain Islam and call people to it, and answer the specious arguments of
those who oppose it, and debate with them in the manner that is better. 

The one who calls others to Islam must be equipped with
Islamic knowledge and strong faith, so that he may resist specious arguments
and temptations. Otherwise he should leave this field to others, and fear
Allaah with regard to himself and not expose himself to things that may lead
to doom. The Muslim should beware of letting any love for the kaafir enter
his heart.